well, everyone.. a lot has been happening in the past two weeks. It all culminated this morning.
Long story short:
After a long, sleepless night..and much thinking.. Bruce and I met with Dr Jazz this morning.
We saw the PET scan and there actually was some good news = the big, nasty tumor that impacts my heart appears to be dead. It didn’t light up at all.
There is another one, though, that was very ‘hot’ and is now impacting my heart from behind and underneath .. as well as three other large tumors that have areas of necrosis, but where they are growing is very ‘hot’.
This means aggressive cells. They initially began to die with the Ifosfamide, but a sub-set of cells became resistant to the chemo and grew through the onslaught. That is a very bad sign and signals that there is nothing to tamp their growth down.
The Ifosfamide was the cannon.. and now the tumors have reduced it’s effectiveness (as well as other treatments) to that of a pistol. That was how Dr Jazz described what is happening, in simple terms
For the fact that the tumors sprang into war, so soon after the nice shrink I had in December, shows without doubt that sarcoma has won. There is nothing more to fight with. If the tumors had remained stable.. there was some hope. No longer is there.. it simply came through the chemo with a mean determination and is unbeatable.
My fight is over.
I may have three or four months. I could throw something at it but it will only cost me time, feeling sick. Besides that, there is nothing left to throw.. nothing with a cannon’s power.
Please do not assume I have given up hope…I am accepting reality. I have listened, I have learned, and I have no doubt. I have ceased all treatment.
I choose to spend my remaining time without further additional stress and discomfort of treatment that cannot help me.
Bruce needed this discussion with Dr Jazz more so than I. I knew it was over when Dr called me last evening. Bruce agrees that to continue is futile.
In the future, there may be radiation but only palliative. If I have terrible pain, we can radiate the bastard to give me relief.
From here on.. I intend to enjoy, to laugh, and to Live It Up

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February 17, 2012 at 12:25 pm
Margie Komlanc
Dear Rae and Bruce, you have fought all the battles.
The next one is the miracle from above.
You sure have enough people praying for you Rae and your
wonderful spirit comes through to us all.
Bless you and keep truckin’.
Prayers are always coming your way.
Bless you.
xo xo Margie
February 17, 2012 at 12:30 pm
Misty
Rae, I’m so sad. There are so many who love you and have hoped and STILL hope for something wonderful for you. I’m in that crowd. I’ll hope until there is no chance for hope and as long as there’s life, there’s hope. Enjoy the time you have to its fullest…as we all should, it could be tomorrow for any one of us, the comfort is in not knowing and you don’t have that comfort. You’ve been such a strong example of what most of us would hope to be if confronted with a similar situation but I know I for one wouldn’t be up to the task. Still sending the same wishes, for joy and peace and survival for you…and strength for you and yours for whatever’s ahead. Big bug hugs always.
February 17, 2012 at 1:23 pm
Sherry
Dear friend, it has been a very long and difficult battle for you, I was hoping for better news for you once again but had gathered from your reply the other day that you already had indications things were not as you had hoped. I also know you of all people would never give up hope but on the other hand … accepting reality isn’t always the ideal scenario either and certainly not what people hope for, in fact it stinks!
I fully understand your decision to cease treatment due to discomfort factors and only do what is needed to keep the pain at bay. I have no doubt you will enjoy, laugh, and Live It Up to the very best of your ability to do so. I will be cheering you on while you do it and praying for some sort of miracle meanwhile.
I hope we hear from you along with updates as to how you are doing…good …bad or otherwise. One thing Rae, you have ‘done it your way’ and pulled a Sinatra (remember the song?) I hope I have the fight and determination you have shown. Hugs, prayers and tons of love my girl….
February 17, 2012 at 1:45 pm
Diane
Dear Rae, you have many friends here online who will remember your spirit and courage through the long ordeal, and will always keep your talent and spirit in mind. Hugz and prayers, Diane
February 17, 2012 at 3:30 pm
Kathleen
Rae, your courage is special and through this long ordeal you have never lost it .My prayers are with you and Bruce, Kathleen
February 17, 2012 at 3:51 pm
Patches
Dear Rae … you go, girl! … squeeze in every bit of ‘happy’ you can and ride it into the sunset. You’ll always have a place in my heart. ♥
Big hugs and lotsa love,
Patches xox
February 17, 2012 at 4:16 pm
Pam
You are and will always be a miracle..and we all pray for one for you..Your strength has been a wonder to see.. you shared your innermost feelings with us all and we have come to love you , you truly do give credence to “online families” Gentle hugs and many prayers !
February 17, 2012 at 6:06 pm
YorkiesFour
I have always admired you Rae, At first it was for your amazing talent with the tutorials you shared with us. And now it is the Grace you are showing as you tell us your latest health news. Please know that you have my prayers as you face the next chapter of your life. Hugs to you and to Bruce
February 17, 2012 at 6:55 pm
Pauline
Dear Rae, thank you for sharing your journey with us. Now I know exactly what “fought a courageous battle” means. I shall never forget you. May God grant you and Bruce His peace and comfort as you prepare to join Him in heaven.
February 17, 2012 at 8:42 pm
DoBe
Dear amazing lady, You have touched the hearts of all who know you. It is beyond words to express the love and admiration we have for you. Know you and Bruce are in our thoughts and prayers always. Sending tender healing hugs to you…. Always DoBe
February 17, 2012 at 10:28 pm
Jo
Rae, thank you so much for all that you have shared with us – your art, your tutorials and your journey. You are so loved and admired by so many and you have touched so many of us in so many ways.Thank you for all that you give to us. May God bless you in return and may His love and strength be with you and Bruce always. Continue on doing it your way… many gentle Hugs, Jo
February 18, 2012 at 12:50 am
DebbyinNC
Rae, you have beautified our lives with your art and talent. Thank you for sharing with us. May you and Bruce find joy and comfort in the coming months. Prayers for you!
Hugs,
Debby
February 18, 2012 at 7:35 am
Diane
Hun I hate to here this news….My prayers are with you and your family. Thank you for sharing all your talent with us and you will never be forgotten by all ur psp friends. Hugssssssssssssssssssssss Smiles
February 18, 2012 at 7:47 am
Energie
Dear Rae, you have touched me in so many ways. Although I never met you in real life, you became a dear friend to me.
I was so hoping for better news.
For now, I know you’ll enjoy, to laugh, and to Live It Up.
My dearest friend, You and Bruce are always in my thoughts and prayers.
Love and hugs, Energie
February 19, 2012 at 7:31 am
Katra
Dearest Rae, at times like this one stands and fumbles with words sounding like a babbling idiot because….. no words can describe what one is feeling inside.You are a person of strength and character who, I know, will continue to hope along with all of us who are not only hoping but praying and asking for a miracle for our beloved friend.
You have touched lives everywhere in many different ways. That is a precious gift you have shared unselfishly with all of us and all of us are grateful for being able to share with your battle and your life.
Thank you for being there when it was needed, you will know when I mean and we all will not give up praying, live it up Rae……..
“You’ve gotta dance like there’s nobody watching,
Love like you’ll never be hurt,
Sing like there’s nobody listening,
And live like it’s heaven on earth.”
My love goes out to you
Katra
February 19, 2012 at 10:27 pm
Junie (Oz)
Dear Rae thank you for allowing me to share your journey. The world is a better place for having people like you. I will hold you in my heart and prayers. Continue to squeeze every drop of joy from life as you have been doing.
February 20, 2012 at 12:43 pm
Scoot
Hi Rae,
Well, I have been steeling myself for this type of news for some time, but it still hurt my heart to read the latest. Though we have never met in person, I feel as though we are friends. The decision you and Bruce have reached had to be gut wrenching, but I am glad you were able to make it together.
I know that you will wring every bit of joy out of the time remaining to you. May God be with you, sweet lady. You have had such a huge impact on so many people, and I thank you for the gifts you have given to us. I will continue to keep you in my prayers.
Much love,
Scoot
February 22, 2012 at 12:21 am
Robyn
Ahh Rae … you are one very courageous lady who has brought so much to me – your beautiful creations, your patience, your encouragement, your determination to fight that rotten devil like no one I have ever met before … I know you will continue to fight even without further treatments but I know in my heart that no matter the final outcome Rae you, my dear friend, are our winner!
Love always – know that whenever I think of you (and its often!) I smile – and always always will
Big hugs Rae to you and to Bruce too
Robyn x
February 24, 2012 at 6:57 pm
Sherry
Hellooooo!! just checking to see if you had dropped in yet, prayers and hugs and always in my thoughts my friend… will keep checking back for a word from you.
February 24, 2012 at 8:32 pm
Jazz
I will continue to keep you & your family in my prayers, Rae. You are amazing, you have so much strength and grace. I feel blessed to know you.
hugs, David
February 25, 2012 at 2:04 am
Edna Munn
Rae I have always loved your tutorials and art, you are an inspiration to people like me and that I have read is very sad. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers and pray that the next 3-4 months will be awesome for you in love laughter. Now that there a lot of people out here in the creative world that will always remember your work.
Kia Kaha (stay strong) my internet friend. Hugs and kisses.
Edna
February 25, 2012 at 11:04 pm
Sass [Sherry]
Rae,
i’m so sorry to read the news i just read.
You are in my thoughts and prayers.
please email me when you get this.
Sass
February 26, 2012 at 6:25 pm
Rose
Rae,
Just want you to know that I feel you have made the right decision to forgo any further treatment. My husband regretted going through all of the chemo and radiation only to lose the battle anyway. Should I ever be faced with such a choice I would never go through that. He suffered so much . More from the chemo and radiation then the actual cancer. You will be in my prayers and I pray that you will find joy and peace in the coming months. I admire your strength and courage. God Bless you and your family.
Rose
February 27, 2012 at 2:31 am
ScarletStar
Hi Rae,
You have taught me so much over the years thru different psp/msn groups, and you are still teaching me now. I think of you often and admire you even more. Your talent is amazing. I want to thank you for all you have taught me. I am so sad to read the news in this blog. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.
With love and admiration,
Scarlet
February 27, 2012 at 6:45 am
Vicki
Rae, I am sorry to hear this news. You have been so positive and brave through your fight, I am not so sure I would be so strong. Sending you and your family many prayers and lots of love xxx
February 27, 2012 at 2:29 pm
Doromia
Rae, I have always admired the way you have faced your struggle, your tutorials have also taught me a lot over the years. I will be sending you lots of prayers and loving thoughts………God bless you, Doromia
February 28, 2012 at 8:38 am
Helene
I have never known anyone with the courage that you have Rae! You are an inspiration to everyone and my thoughts and prayers are with you. God bless you and your family.
Hugs,
Helene
February 29, 2012 at 1:13 pm
Candy
Rae …. I will continue to send up prayers on your behalf …. the Lord knows all that you’re going thru at this troubling time. God Bless You!
Candy (Candy-Hearts)
March 1, 2012 at 2:19 am
Cathy Allan
Rae,
Your courage through this has been amazing. You are a person of great talent and indeed have shown great strength. I will continue to pray for you and hope that you will be able to continue live it up for as long as possible. Although I never met you in person, you have been an inspiration to me and to many others. Thank you for all you have given of yourself and for sharing so much with us. May you find peace and as much happiness as possible, because dear lady you so deserve it. God bless you.
Cathy A.
March 1, 2012 at 8:51 pm
KerryAnne
Rae…I’m so sad the treatment didn’t work. You are so brave and courageous and always remained optimistic even when things were getting so tough for you. You will always remain in my thoughts and prayers.
Sending gentle hugs to you
KerryAnne xxx
March 5, 2012 at 11:53 pm
Sherry
Hello Rae… just checking in to see if you had been here.. if you can let us – me hear from you and how you are doing,,, huggs and prayers friend
March 6, 2012 at 12:10 am
Robyn
Thinking of you Rae & Bruce – much love
Robyn
March 7, 2012 at 3:25 pm
tess
Dear Rae,words fail me.So sorry to hear the latest news
You are an inspiration to us all.One brave lady.
My heart goes out to you and Bruce .Big hugs XOXOXO
Tess
March 17, 2012 at 6:37 pm
Patches
Happy St. Patrick’s evening, Rae … hope you’re having a glass of green beer. lol
Big hugs, lotsa love,
Patches xox
March 19, 2012 at 7:51 pm
Margie
Hi Rae just a pop in to let you know I am thinking about you and still praying
for a new drug or miracle.
xo xo Margie
March 19, 2012 at 8:06 pm
Sherry
….just checking ….later my friend, good thoughts, prayers and wishing you all the things you want to do ….let us hear from you if possible.
March 21, 2012 at 11:28 am
Mariane
Dear Rae,
I have just learned about your situation and your fight against the darkness – (cancer) I will not tell you to relax and it will be ok and so on. I will tell you that you will live forever as your body is only a shell that harboured your Soul – Your Soul are stronger than ever as you soon are graduate your life school here on the Earth our Mother Nature. You will soon experience how the Light is with your and for Bruce it can be a comfort to know you are without pain and you both shall meet again.
Dear Rae, it has been such a great experience and joy to get to know you (you might have known me as Pippin) I loved the way you taught us how to do the animation. And you patience for other people has been tremendous. I can only say. Fare well, dear Soul – May the Light be with you
With Love
Mariane
March 21, 2012 at 11:37 am
Jan(gen tlerain
Rae
I will keep you and your famiky in my prayers daily
I hope and pray you do all you wish to do
Hugs to you and family
Gentlerain(Jan)
March 21, 2012 at 11:40 am
Jan(gen tlerain
Thinking of you
March 21, 2012 at 11:43 am
Lorraine
Wow Rae, I’ve only just found out and I’m sad too hear this. I was thinking a lot about you this past month and I didn’t know why. I was just remembering your awesome tutorials and all the things I learned through you. I pray for you and Bruce and I realize this must be mind numbing news. I’m happy you will be focusing on living your last few months on earth and not suffering through more painful chemotherapy. You are an inspiration to me.
God bless, much love Lorraine, aka SophisticatSimone on the web.
March 21, 2012 at 11:48 am
Myrtle Stafford
hi Rae, I know a little of what you are going through I have been through it to and now I feel better for taking my treatments and the Zelaman my doctor gave me for the tumors and now mine has gone away.. but don’t know for how long I do feel for you durning this time and God will Bless you through it all for now just keep on living your life as you can and enjoy everything you do.. I am so sorry you have the tumors and wish the doctors can find something that will help you for your pain .. I am a tut writer also and seen your work on the tuts you do.. keep on fighting and take care.. this has been hard to know a friend like you and know what you are going through.. god bless you!
Myrtle from MyrtlesTutorials
March 21, 2012 at 11:49 am
Hartmut Schroeder
Dear Rae,
when I have finishd reading this article I had tears in my eyes. Then I remind me to my dearest boyfriend who passed away sudden last year
after a 33 years relationship.
I wonder and can partly imagine which volume your strength is. I will speak prayers for you and your family.
You have filled out the life of your family and either the group life at facebook.
Heartfelt hugs and kisses to your.
Hartmut from Germany
March 21, 2012 at 12:01 pm
butterflyflutterby
such a news Rae and a great loss to the PSP world I’m an oldie and remember the fun and being amazed when i completed one of your stunning tutorials. I have to say i don’t think I’ve seen anyone come close to your talent and animation skills. it was a pleasure to become an addict.
were getting older i was a young when i started with my kids whipping round my ankles now they have grown and flown the nest. time flies seems only yesterday we all got into this crazy hobby
your taught is owed so much and I THANK YOU for teaching me so much and were ground breaking and influenced so many life’s and i miss the old days of ways of tutorials.
Legends live on, keep your chin up as always your Stalker
Butter aka butterflyflutterby
March 21, 2012 at 1:15 pm
Elvira
my thoughts are with you
i can’t find the words to tell you how sorry i’m to hear it
prayers for you and your family
March 21, 2012 at 1:53 pm
Vinnie Perry
Dear Rae ,
Although I never knew you well I feel I do from Katra who spoke of you often with such regard for you.
Missing you in TWI and praying for you.
(((((hugs)))))
Love,
Vinnie
March 21, 2012 at 3:36 pm
Viviane
Thinking of you Rae – much love.
Big hugs,Viviane.
March 22, 2012 at 1:59 pm
Temp
Hi Rae
My thoughts and prayers are with you
much love
(((((Hugs))))
March 22, 2012 at 7:47 pm
Robyn
Thinking of you every day Rae – may each day bring you peace and strength and whatever you need to get you through to the next
much love and gentle hugs
Robyn x
March 23, 2012 at 7:43 am
Cat
Rae,
I have been thinking of you very often in the last years
You in my mind have been the bravest woman I ever met online. It’s been an honor and pleasure for me to have known you even a little.
I wish you peace and courage for whatever comes next and you know hun? miracles still happen occasionally, don’t ever give up hope.
love
March 23, 2012 at 7:26 pm
Jan(gentlerain
stopping to say hi Rae
March 24, 2012 at 5:27 am
Hartmut Schroeder
Hi dear,
let me drop some lines again. I had 9 years ago the diagnosis prostate cancer. With good doctors and radiation therapy I have gotten fix it.
But I have to go every three months to a urologist to check the psa. I am on a good level. At the moment I have 1.1 .
I want to share from this luck the half to you, dear Rae. Maybe it works together with my prayers.
You are always in my mind
Hugs and kisses to you and your family
Hartmut from Germany
March 24, 2012 at 12:04 pm
Jan(gentlerain
Hello Rae,
My thoughts and prayers are with you
much love
Gentlerain-Jan
March 25, 2012 at 7:48 pm
Cuddz
Hiya Rae,
I remember you from way back and remember your PSP Tutorials well.
you taught so many to emjoy this little hobby of ours.
You will always be remembered for that.
The legend will live on.
You have been so strong with this and have fought hard.
I hope with all my heart you can find the peace you need and
that you can be as pain free as possible.
My heart is with you,
as are my Thoughts and Prayers,
Love Cuddz
xxxxxxxxx
March 26, 2012 at 3:31 am
Anny Ovalle
Rae,
I remember your PSP Tutorials you are in my prayers
Hug
Anny Ovalle
March 26, 2012 at 6:16 am
Tereza Lamy
Hello Rae,
Hi Rae
My thoughts and prayers are with you. I also remember your tutorials.
Much love
Tereza Lamy
March 26, 2012 at 7:50 am
Karin
Hello Rae,
I’ve been serveral years at TWI and I don’t know you very wellI but heard a lot of you from Katra about your great tuts and yourself as a great person!.
I read your story and this is very sad. I admire your strength and courage. God Bless you and your family.
Big Hugs and love from
Karin
March 26, 2012 at 8:32 am
Loretta
Ciao Rae e Bruce, sono nuova di TWI, ho letto le notizie che hai messo sul tuo blog… posso solo darti tutte le mie preghiere e un abbraccio da un’amica dall’Italia, spera con forza per un miracolo e per darti/darvi la forza per superare questo momento………….
Loretta
March 27, 2012 at 12:02 pm
Jan(gentlerain
My prayers are with you Dot, ©rae and zoomie
Yes, you and your tutorials are a legend, you will never be forgtten
We all love you
Hugs
Gentlerain(Jan)
April 1, 2012 at 12:08 am
may
read this awhile ago and just didn’t know how to really respond. still not sure if i have the words to do so.
you have been through so much and i am amazed at the strength you have had through it all. there is always hope and if anyone deserves a miracle it is you.
i wish you the best in whatever may come next. and may each day be as pain free as possible for you.
love hugs and prayers always,
may
April 4, 2012 at 10:37 am
Jan(gentlerain
Popping in to say, hello and to let you knw my prayers are with you
Hus
Gentlerain-Jan
April 8, 2012 at 1:21 pm
Jan(gentlerain
Popping in to say, hello and to let you know my prayers are with you
Hugs
Gentlerain-Jan
April 12, 2012 at 2:57 pm
Jan(gentlerain
Thinking of you today
April 16, 2012 at 11:09 am
Cuddz
Just popping in to let you know I have you in my Thoughts and Prayers xxx